An Outlook to Prevent Divorce

June 13, 2010

Yesterday I cleaned off my refrigerator.  Over the years I had amassed a large collection of clutter magnets, comic strip clippings, photos, children’s artwork and other scraps of paper I wanted to save.  Among the things I found was this quote from Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s Gift from the Sea:

When you love someone, you do not love him or her in exactly the same way, from moment to moment.  It is an impossibility.  And yet this is exactly what most of us demand.  We have so little faith in the ebb and flow or life, of love, of relationships.  We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb.   We are afraid it will never return.  We insist on permanency, on continuity, when the only continuity possible is in growth, in freedom, in the sense that dancers are free, barely touching as they pass but partners in the same pattern.  The only real security in a relationship lies in neither looking back in nostalgia, nor forward in dread or anticipating, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.

I wonder how many divorces could be prevented if couples took this philosophy to heart!



  1. Love it! So much truth…

  2. and is that quote going back on the new fridge?

    • No, Joanne… striving for a less cluttered fridge-front. However, I did tuck it away in a special journal where I keep quotes and other nuggets of wisdom.

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